13 May 2012

Flying Solo... again

Well...I am looking for the silver lining.

But yes, I guess if it was meant to be.. it would have been.

Apparently not.

So, I have been seeking out the good that comes with a break up.

Ok lets see..

I have lots more time for me.
I don't have to think about planning out coordinated schedules.
I don't have to interact with other friends that I really dont want to.
I don't have to worry about a third dog
I don't have to make sure the sink is clear of dishes (all the time).
My grocery bill will definitely go down.
If I want to spend all day in bed on a weekend I can (Ok wait a minute maybe that isnt different)

The new free time will be good for me to really think about what I want in life..

Obviously I am trying to talk myself through the hurt..but it will all be OK..
When I stop to think about it.. I can't even remember what fully brought this on.. maybe it was bound to happen.. who knows..
Now as long as I dont reach for a pint of ice cream.. I will be good.

Happy Mothers day to all of you who have been blessed with children that you love and that love you..

be well.


  1. I know you are so strong and will get through this. I know it might be tough since it was someone you trusted after Mark.
    You know we're all here for you if you need us.
    Happy mothers day to you.

  2. I'm really sorry to hear the news, but you are an amazingly strong woman and you will get through this. My love and hugs to you!!!

  3. Keep on living your life and perhaps there is something amazing right around the corner. Big hug!

  4. Well Barb, that kinda sucks. My advice (since you didn't ask :) wallow for a couple of days, eat some cookie dough, and then pull up your big girl panties and prepare for your next big adventure! I can't wait to hear what it's gonna be! *hugs*

  5. I know this has to hurt like hell! I am sorry that you are going through this hurt after Mark, but I will say it is his loss my dear. You are an amazing woman, strong, loving, fun and I know someone will realize just how special and amazing you are!

    You are strong and you do not need a MAN to be happy!

  6. I agree with Gilly. I'm sorry this is happening to you! I wish you peace and happiness sister!

  7. I hope you're doing okay.

  8. I think the universe is just clearing your schedule for your next amazing adventure. Enjoy the break!

  9. Definitely his loss... hope you're doing OK and you know you'll get through this. And what the hell? Give yourself a pint of ice cream and call it good. ((HUGS))

  10. You're in my thoughts!!

    Oh by the way.....love the new hair do!


  11. I'm so sorry to hear this Barb. Not knowing what happened, all I can say is it is his loss! I love Gilly' advice though! She can be the Canadian Dear Abby!

  12. Well, good riddance. He was just the practice round. 8-) Okay, so you had some fun. End of story.
    Of course, if you do get back with him...forget I said that.
    Seriously.....break ups are painful and awful and downright sh*tf*cky. And, I am so sorry you have to endure that pain. Thankfully, you are a strong, loving woman who is full of life and has so much to give. Give the wallowing/grieving one day for every 3 months you were together. That's the rule for break ups with the man who is NOT THE ONE.
    Sending good VIBES!